I know what it’s like to gain 70 lbs during pregnancy (twice), and only see women in photos who are super fit, which makes you feel ashamed of your changing body.
I know what it’s like when you have so many people pulling you in so many directions that you end up feeling worn out at the end of the day, and even though it’s not something we ever want to admit out loud… resentment can begin to creep in.
I know what it’s like to look in the mirror and speak awful, hurtful, and unkind words to the woman staring back at you… the self-loathing I’ve felt in times of my life was completely paralyzing.
I know what it’s like to drive your kids from soccer practice, to gymnastics, back to soccer practice, to piano — all with unwashed/dry-shampooed hair and having stayed up the night before with a teething, fussy baby.
I know what it’s like to feel like you never really ‘quite’ fit in with your other mom friends and to feel like you are always letting people down in some way or another.
I know what it’s like to go through a divorce or a breakup… and come out of it wondering if you have much worth or value to offer anyone.
I know what it feels like to be in these situations because I’ve been in every. Single. One.
The shame and guilt and fear and failure I’ve known during these times in my life was overwhelming…
I also know what it looks like on the other side.
I know what it feels like to finally learn that there are variations of normal and that the amount of weight you gained during pregnancy (or during other times in your life) does NOT determine your worth.
I know what it feels like to be at peace with your changing body and to learn to accept the parts you cannot change and love your best features.
I know how empowering it feels when it finally clicks that perfection is a myth and when you learn to show yourself grace during your imperfections — that this can become your biggest strength.
I know the freedom of understanding that there are no “good foods” or “bad foods”, but just that there are some foods we should eat more of, and some foods we should eat less of.
I know that when we show ourselves more love and grace, we are able to give grace more wholeheartedly to those around us when they need it most.
I know that self-care is not selfish, and when you spend just a little bit of time on yourself each day, you are able to give everyone else around you the best of you…